The Emotional Vampire - Sexy & Destructive

[Valentina]

THE EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE - Sexy and Destructive
by Valentina


He/she might claim to be a pranist, a hybrid, a sanguine, a psy vampire, a sexual vampire, etc. But what if, at their core, they are really an emotional vampire? Should you be concerned about running into an emotional vampire? Absolutely, because they will drain you of almost every last drop of your energy if you let them. And, trust me, that's a horrible feeling/state of being. Once they have you in their web, they offer nothing in return and I do mean nothing. Their purpose is to control you, drain you, and maybe destroy you. Many emotional vampires know exactly what they are doing, from beginning to end. They orchestrate their personalities, even their manner of speech (if they sound like they've been to too many Renaissance fairs, watch out) their names, their avatars, their signatures, their past history, an exotic heritage...everything...to build a seductive trap. They might surround themselves with admirers who seem to know them very well. Careful, here, very careful. It is most likely these admirers don't even exist. It could even be something as wild as two individuals who are lovers but both are emotional vampires working the community.

How can you initially spot an emotional vampire? I don't think you can so quickly. They might befriend you, present themselves as, say, a sang/hybrid vampire while you are visiting the OVC (online vampire community) or visiting goth-type boards. They will start by agreeing with you or supportng you, maybe even offering assistance (watch out new vampire!). They use all the tricks of romantic seduction they can muster. They want you to "pant after them." I even read that in a livejournal. Once they have your admiration, they then employ techniques to gain your loyalty. The next thing you know, you start to feel a little drained, not sure if it's stress. Maybe I'm not sleeping enough? You begin worrying about this emotional vampire. He/she might have said he was feeling ill or depressed. Gradually, the drama builds up and you are there supporting him/her. Next thing you know, the drama is unbelievable to the point of maybe even physical violence. Every other week or so something is going on. It might be a vamp-out but he/she won't drink blood because he/she is just too weak. You wish there was something you could do. You love him or her as a friend, maybe even romantically.

Love. Admiration. Worship. The emotional vampire has a rock-star-need for love, worship, and admiration. He/she will do anything to get it. And worship is exactly what they want. They will twist your heart and soul to death, draining every bit of energy you have. When the drama is constant, you can bet they have engineered every bit of it, manipulating your emotions and feeding off of you. Once they have drained you, they will start to pull away so you may rebuild you strength a little, and perhaps pine at the distance. Then, they will come back and test to see how far they can push you, how much of your energy they can take. Or they may have built up such a large number of victims, it takes awhile to get around to you, to torture you and build more emotional distress. Still, they may be coming to you while you are totally unaware.

You might wonder how the emotional vampire actually feeds. Well, the emotional vampire is a sadist and glories in your pain, especially your pain over his pretended woes. He loves the control, revels in it. The other way he feeds is visiting you on the astral and taking from you. You will definitely be ready to give to him because he is hurting so, you know. You are breaking down on an emotional leave anyway, an easy mark....weak! The other way he will feed is to extend tentacles to you no matter where you are in the world.

If you are a bit psychic/have good instincts, you will know from the get-go that something is wrong. If you are like me, you will ignore your intuition and hope for the best. After all, people are people. I'm very forgiving. Besides, he decries emotional vampires and says he has high morals! You might find yourself defending him. That's what friends do.

Once you find out that he has lied to you about who he is, who he really is, what he is, it's very painful. It's also liberating. You knew you were right all along. You know that he never cared about you, that he is a true sociopath. You loved a lie. With that one realization, your energy will start flooding back to you...all of that energy he stole from you. Of course, you could go and visit him on the astral and take back every drop he took from you >:)

[ChadSang]

By what you wrote, psychologically it sounds like a person with a Borderline Personality Disorder. Gawd they can drain you to death.

[Valentina]

By what you wrote, psychologically it sounds like a person with a Borderline Personality Disorder. Gawd they can drain you to death.
In fact, they claimed BPD at different times, also Bipolar Disorder. Most of us involved with them think that they were using BPD and other mental maladies to produce more sympathy so that they could feed on us longer. I am willing to forgive if they would come clean with me, but I know in my heart of hearts, they could care less. They got what they wanted and have decided to vanish.

[Preist]

I find that most unaware vampires as in the terms that they do not know what they are do this type of thing and then when and if they are awakend then they continue doing things this way as a rule of thumb because its the way they learned and if it works why change it.

as for aware vampires that drain this way again its there way and some thirve on it but most of us need be aware of types there has been a few on Nox but most are found out or cant get there feed here so leave. as for the fact of offering to help then gaining trust just on this one if your putting in alot and getting nothing out time to get the hell out of dodge have always had the rule that i teach out of my own experiance and then let the student go for a while most find enough to go on and then find there own path or come back later times and teach me something but all in all if you arent getting anything in return from someone wanting to teach you then as said get out of dodge as there are pleanty of vamps online doing this and sorry to say norrmaly with big titles like counts and countess lord or lady again with brovado of something they are not

good article and a suggested read to anyone looking for answers to vampireism if you know what to avoid then at least you know what to look for when you see it

Preist

[gypsy mouse]

sounds like you got hurt bad hun.....
people are people. they are not naturaly forgiveing....nor are they inclined to ignore their gut insinicts...
but when amoung so many desprit for exceptance and understanding we tend to let our gaurds down in order to find companionship. we are curently in an enviroment that lets many posers and liers come amoungest us. your right as we must stay on our guard. But you also must understand that not all peeps that seem questionable are liers......if you take everything with a grain of salt and proper precautions no ones gonna be feeding off you. not over the net... not over the phone... not on any astral plane... and sure as hell not in person if you keep your guard up. in this day and age you cant afford to let your gaurd down... we've gathered togther in a group that is easy for shady sneaks to come in and fuck with us.....just keep those feelers out there.....keep your friends close...your enemys closer. get to know that which is alien to you then make your discision. as long as you follow the rule of friends before lovers.....and you keep your emotions in cheak during extreame moments, you shouldnt fall pray to emotional anything.


in mundane socity we have many people who you might concider as a "emotional vampire" i call them empaths. they pick up on other emotions and those emotions have a negitive or positive effect on the empath.....as picking up on emotions does not have a "draining" effect on the subject. just being around a empath can be draining....i know i cant hang around my one friend too much....try going to a type 0 concert with a empath.....so many emotions flying round the place i had to get real fucking drunk just to deal with all the emotional changes and ups and downs....i know i felt like i had a hang over before i ever left the show....she wasent draining me....she just had me running in circles trying to catch up with her....shes mundane. but geeze, i can only imagine whaty peeps feel like round me. i know what i feel like round them....i have no need nor hopes on draining anyones enegry for anything.....if youd all just keep it to yourselves, build your walls high, empaths, "emotionl vampires", whatever, cant have an effect on you.

[Valentina]

I find that most unaware vampires as in the terms that they do not know what they are do this type of thing and then when and if they are awakend then they continue doing things this way as a rule of thumb because its the way they learned and if it works why change it.

as for aware vampires that drain this way again its there way and some thirve on it but most of us need be aware of types there has been a few on Nox but most are found out or cant get there feed here so leave. as for the fact of offering to help then gaining trust just on this one if your putting in alot and getting nothing out time to get the hell out of dodge have always had the rule that i teach out of my own experiance and then let the student go for a while most find enough to go on and then find there own path or come back later times and teach me something but all in all if you arent getting anything in return from someone wanting to teach you then as said get out of dodge as there are pleanty of vamps online doing this and sorry to say norrmaly with big titles like counts and countess lord or lady again with brovado of something they are not

good article and a suggested read to anyone looking for answers to vampireism if you know what to avoid then at least you know what to look for when you see it

Preist
I'm psychic, in tune, but my problem is that I refuse to listen to my intution....always looking for the good in people. I even wrote poems that came true within a year. I didn't know where the poems were coming from at the time...some are posted here. And I sometimes let my emotions rule my heart instead of intellect. I'd rather bury my head in the sand instead of believing someone is that evil. I will count the experience as a rich one, lol.

I've known a few vamps that use the titles. It doesn't usually bother me if it's a matter of respect. But sometimes it can be nauseating.

[Valentina]

sounds like you got hurt bad hun.....
people are people. they are not naturaly forgiveing....nor are they inclined to ignore their gut insinicts...
but when amoung so many desprit for exceptance and understanding we tend to let our gaurds down in order to find companionship. we are curently in an enviroment that lets many posers and liers come amoungest us. your right as we must stay on our guard. But you also must understand that not all peeps that seem questionable are liers......if you take everything with a grain of salt and proper precautions no ones gonna be feeding off you. not over the net... not over the phone... not on any astral plane... and sure as hell not in person if you keep your guard up. in this day and age you cant afford to let your gaurd down... we've gathered togther in a group that is easy for shady sneaks to come in and fuck with us.....just keep those feelers out there.....keep your friends close...your enemys closer. get to know that which is alien to you then make your discision. as long as you follow the rule of friends before lovers.....and you keep your emotions in cheak during extreame moments, you shouldnt fall pray to emotional anything.


in mundane socity we have many people who you might concider as a "emotional vampire" i call them empaths. they pick up on other emotions and those emotions have a negitive or positive effect on the empath.....as picking up on emotions does not have a "draining" effect on the subject. just being around a empath can be draining....i know i cant hang around my one friend too much....try going to a type 0 concert with a empath.....so many emotions flying round the place i had to get real fucking drunk just to deal with all the emotional changes and ups and downs....i know i felt like i had a hang over before i ever left the show....she wasent draining me....she just had me running in circles trying to catch up with her....shes mundane. but geeze, i can only imagine whaty peeps feel like round me. i know what i feel like round them....i have no need nor hopes on draining anyones enegry for anything.....if youd all just keep it to yourselves, build your walls high, empaths, "emotionl vampires", whatever, cant have an effect on you.

Hi gypsy...you make some wonderful points. I am a strong empath so that can be my downfall...at times. Usually, I am stronger after bending an ear for someone hurting. But it was as Preist said, nothing in return. Plus, these people were very skilled at what they do. They found ways to break through my defenses.

Yes, it is lovely that not all are like this.

[gypsy mouse]

id hug ya if i knew ya better....i think ill be punny and say "i feel ya". *smiles*

preist is usually right about what he has to say...or he says nothing at all.

[Valentina]

id hug ya if i knew ya better....i think ill be punny and say "i feel ya". *smiles*

preist is usually right about what he has to say...or he says nothing at all.

*hugs you anyway*

I will be sure and listen to what preist has to say. You know, it's lovely that the people here are very mature and well-informed. You don't find that too often.

[RKCoon]

An excellent article on a topic im all too familair with, my freind. well done. :)

[Valentina]

Thank you, RK. I guess we have to learn the hard way, huh?

[darkangel5778]

DAYAMN! Are you sure we didn't date the same guy? lol j/k all kidding aside these are predators that many are not warned about and not all hang out in the vampire community...........now they are in chat rooms and especially RP rooms.....and the web only makes it easier for them to get mroe and more victims.............yes they do drain you and they tear you apart emotionally eventually, you avhe to break away............
so what of those who have no freaking clue? or choose not to beleive in vampires and therefore do ot visit these sites? meeting an emotional vampire, they can adjust thier pitch, whether it be with an emotional disorder, or a dramatic past............those people never know and so they do attribute their being tired to normal things, and they are the unfortunates..........they may wind up marrying them.............poor pityful creatures...........thank god you managed to escape from that............

[Valentina]

DAYAMN! Are you sure we didn't date the same guy? lol j/k all kidding aside these are predators that many are not warned about and not all hang out in the vampire community...........I found one..........believe it or not in an rp room I used to go to........and the web only makes it easier for them to get mroe and more victims.............yes they do drain you and they tear you apart emotionally eventually, you avhe to break away............I mysefl broke away w/o needing an explanation, I already knew. I told him that I was cutting contact and to live a nice life (don't want karma biting me in the arse for putting a curse on the little toad.........) and that was that..........he knew that it no longer was going to work adn I no longer cared for him that I had learned to move on..............but then again..........I knew by then the warning signs but I had found them IN THE MIDDLE of the relationship which lasted well over a year
so what of those who have no freaking clue? or choose not to beleive in vampires and therefore do ot visit these sites? meeting an emotional vampire, they can adjust thier pitch, whether it be with an emotional disorder, or a dramatic past............those people never know and so they do attribute their being tired to normal things, and they are the unfortunates..........they may wind up marrying them.............poor pityful creatures...........thank god you managed to escape from that............

Well, he wasn't a love interest...I'm married...but he was a friend, or so I thought.

You are right. This shows that one can practice vampirism without being a born vampire. I guess we have known them throughout our lives. I have people come to me all the time because I'm a good listener and compassionate. I love to bend an ear for someone who needs a shoulder. Usually, I feel pretty good after letting someone cry on my shoulder. But there exists those who try to take advantage and will drain you to death if you let them...it can happen before you know it. Boundaries, huh?

[darkangel5778]

nah just barriers....mental barriers lol ask about mine lol ;) but I had to learn that............takes experience..........as far as the cry on the shoulder thing..........it is a scientific fact that after a person expresses grief serotonin (sp? lord I hate bio terms lol) is released
and as far as beig a non vampire...nto exactly what i meant......althouhg they could do it too lol no what I meant is emo vampires do not nessecarily ahng out in just the VC............they are everywhere...........and to the unaware.............and unbelieving, they can portray a "normal" illness or horrific situation and get them that way the internet is botha good and bad thing................

[Alyushia]

Some of the worst I have seen about draining people are some borderlines.
They often are not vampires, but the effect is the same basically.
It definitely can happen. Slowly sneaking up on you until one day you wake up and find you don't recognise yourself anymore, or them for that matter.

[gypsy mouse]

i wake up not recognizin myself at least twice a year.....sometimes once a mth i wonder whats become of me.....
maybe someone could write down some physical/mental symptoms directly related to emo vamps "donors". just to clear up any uncertainties. dont want a buncha peeps freakin out that a emo vamps suckin the life outta them...when its mearly a change in the persons life or emtional standing.....there are allways other possibilitys...

[Vicereine]

in response to both Alyushia and Gypsymouse.....

I may sound clinical and cold in this but its how I talk when i think outloud so bear with me guys....

Boarderlines and other personality disorders have warped social interaction, generally. Social difficulites make it almost impossible for them to interact in a cohesive way for long periods of time, often they mentally go off on a tangent or lose the emotional 'thread' of a conversation until they loop or spiral round one point and avoid the issue. This by its self is frustrating and draining, without any vampiric qualities thrown in, add to that any emotional attachement and you get ripped apart. I say this from experience, not just in a romantic way but also as a parent with two autistic kids, whose social issues present slightly differently but to the same end at times.

Very often when you are invested in someone emotionally, be that friendship or a deeper connection, it can be incredibly difficult to not want to 'fix' them. You apply very strong and black and white logic to illustrate a point, and when that point is still missed or is manipulated beyond reason to a point where its facing entirely the opposite direction to how it was meant, it becomes futile. THen you end up questioning yourself. Are you wrong? Did you say what they said you did? Are you losing your mind?

I have no doubt that some vampires use extream emotional states to draw from and as such realise the simplicity of inducing the state when they need it. Couple that with a bonifide personality disorder and you have an explosion waiting to go off.

My advice to anyone reading this is as follows. Dont judge ANYONE by their disorders, personality or otherwise, judge them by their behaviour and their actions. I have seen people with very significant personality problems able to reach into the dark and help someone (me) lost and alone in a mental and emotional breakdown. I've seen the same person use my affections as leverage for payback when deemed that I have 'betrayed'.

Ultimately the emotional vampiric type has choices to make, choose to use understanding to help and progress, or be defined by your disorders.

Specifically to Gypsy, I think most people do that hun, i think we all have expectations of who we are and every now and then something happens to shake our own perception of self, and we find ourselves faced with a stranger in the mirror. I think that vampiric types and empaths are prone to feel it at a core level and I think those who have been around an emotional vampire for some time even more so.......... but thats just my opinion ;)

[Valentina]

in response to both Alyushia and Gypsymouse.....

I may sound clinical and cold in this but its how I talk when i think outloud so bear with me guys....

Boarderlines and other personality disorders have warped social interaction, generally. Social difficulites make it almost impossible for them to interact in a cohesive way for long periods of time, often they mentally go off on a tangent or lose the emotional 'thread' of a conversation until they loop or spiral round one point and avoid the issue. This by its self is frustrating and draining, without any vampiric qualities thrown in, add to that any emotional attachement and you get ripped apart. I say this from experience, not just in a romantic way but also as a parent with two autistic kids, whose social issues present slightly differently but to the same end at times.

Very often when you are invested in someone emotionally, be that friendship or a deeper connection, it can be incredibly difficult to not want to 'fix' them. You apply very strong and black and white logic to illustrate a point, and when that point is still missed or is manipulated beyond reason to a point where its facing entirely the opposite direction to how it was meant, it becomes futile. THen you end up questioning yourself. Are you wrong? Did you say what they said you did? Are you losing your mind?

I have no doubt that some vampires use extream emotional states to draw from and as such realise the simplicity of inducing the state when they need it. Couple that with a bonifide personality disorder and you have an explosion waiting to go off.

My advice to anyone reading this is as follows. Dont judge ANYONE by their disorders, personality or otherwise, judge them by their behaviour and their actions. I have seen people with very significant personality problems able to reach into the dark and help someone (me) lost and alone in a mental and emotional breakdown. I've seen the same person use my affections as leverage for payback when deemed that I have 'betrayed'.

Ultimately the emotional vampiric type has choices to make, choose to use understanding to help and progress, or be defined by your disorders.

Specifically to Gypsy, I think most people do that hun, i think we all have expectations of who we are and every now and then something happens to shake our own perception of self, and we find ourselves faced with a stranger in the mirror. I think that vampiric types and empaths are prone to feel it at a core level and I think those who have been around an emotional vampire for some time even more so.......... but thats just my opinion ;)
Thank you, Vicereine, for you keen insight. I do believe that those with personality disorders have control over their behaviors, at least adults do. They are not lacking in intelligence.

Your advice to judge people on their behavior is right on, in my humble opinion.

[Alyushia]

I agree completely, Vicereine. Completely.

[gypsy mouse]

"Boarderlines and other personality disorders have warped social interaction, generally. Social difficulites make it almost impossible for them to interact in a cohesive way for long periods of time, often they mentally go off on a tangent or lose the emotional 'thread' of a conversation until they loop or spiral round one point and avoid the issue."
ahhhh... matters on the "personality disorder"...im no professinal but that sounds rather vage. true on some leval..somewhere.. im sure...just theres a broad spectrum.

"I have no doubt that some vampires use extream emotional states to draw from and as such realise the simplicity of inducing the state when they need it. Couple that with a bonifide personality disorder and you have an explosion waiting to go off"
once again it matters on what personality disorder were talking about. (the only reason this perked my ears was cause ive never heard of a "emotional vampire")

"My advice to anyone reading this is as follows. Dont judge ANYONE by their disorders, personality or otherwise, judge them by their behaviour and their actions"
can i hug that sentance?

" i think we all have expectations of who we are and every now and then something happens to shake our own perception of self, and we find ourselves faced with a stranger in the mirror."

and that one i might have to steal.
(course im a gemini...and kinda have little expectations......i just keep surprisein myself.)

[darkangel5778]

I agree with vicererine, it is not proper to judge all witht eh same malady by the same token...................
however what I am angry about it those that claim these disorders that may not even have them.............it is more drama for them to have a disorder more pity, even those that do have variances, some live this way because they choose to do so............I can think of one or two myself.......others stay sturdy and say to hell with it I am going to roll with teh punches life gives and make the best of it, they complain little and quite often with emotional disorders they seem more mature shall we say than those that scream it to the heavens. I applaud the latter, detest the former.
WHile I agree that some of these people are mearly undiagnosed..........some are quite aware of what they are doing and the harm they cause but the sheer pleasure they get out of the vicitms pain is intoxicating............(and even thinking this way si giving me chills btw) they either do not understand that positve energy is by far more rewarding in "volume" as I call it.........don't knwo what to call it really lol but positive energy fills you up faster than does negative, and some may honestly be unaware of that fact........or on the other hand they may very well enjoy the thrills they are getting the attention the devotion...........

[Vicereine]

wow... what a response to the post . ;)

I really should have considered more before posting, it wasnt one of my more insightful.

Gypsy, oh im aware its a broad spectrum, I have experience of spectrums with my kids, it was meant more as a 'from personal experience' kinda sentiment. And you can hug whatever you like luv ;)

I would, however, like to return this to topic and steer it back round to discussing emotional vampires if possible away from the physcological disorders peeps. Thanks!


re read this and decided i needed to add a few further things, Gypsy, in response to the 'emotional vampire' context, i think its another case of our ol' friend terminology. I know a number of vampires who are 'hybrids' and able to draw energy in a variety of ways, although most have a preferred source. To me the term 'emotional' vampire is one who has the elective source of the energy created by high emotion. (the old sentiment of the air was stifling when you walked in the room becuase someone had just had an arguement in there) I guess you could say its a type of Psy vampire. Again, just my interpretation and not wanting to get myself all tied in knots over terminology again *rolls eyes* nearly went gaga last time and started to believe i was a pink elephant vampire with fairy wings *joke*.........

[darkangel5778]

yay pink elephants! :elefant:hehe I have that song on my comp somewhere lmfao nah everyone gets heated over things...........don't worry about it...........but yes our dear freind terminology -gets out throwing stars aiming fro whomever the hell came up with so called black and white terms- is at fault here...................:maniac:

[gypsy mouse]

without terminoligy how else are we to easily explain an idea?.....i sure as hell needed a explaination for "emotional vampire".
so we're grouping it in psy...that would explain why im stupid on the term....ive always steerd clear of psy anything.....hurts my head.

"To me the term 'emotional' vampire is one who has the elective source of the energy created by high emotion."

cools...learn something new everyday.....
*goes off to find put cubs to bed*

[Alyushia]

I have seen it used as a type of psy vampirism before..in fact, often.

[gypsy mouse]

but i thought that was included in the whole psy thing.....feeds off emotional/psycie (excuss the spelling) didnt really think there would be a differance in that case. are emotional vampire and psy vampire the same thing?

[Alyushia]

To me, emotional vampire is a type of psivamp...that's how I have always seen it classified.

[sanguine_princess]

THE EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE - Sexy and Destructive
by Valentina


He/she might claim to be a pranist, a hybrid, a sanguine, a psy vampire, a sexual vampire, etc. But what if, at their core, they are really an emotional vampire? Should you be concerned about running into an emotional vampire? Absolutely, because they will drain you of almost every last drop of your energy if you let them. And, trust me, that's a horrible feeling/state of being. Once they have you in their web, they offer nothing in return and I do mean nothing. Their purpose is to control you, drain you, and maybe destroy you. Many emotional vampires know exactly what they are doing, from beginning to end. They orchestrate their personalities, even their manner of speech (if they sound like they've been to too many Renaissance fairs, watch out) their names, their avatars, their signatures, their past history, an exotic heritage...everything...to build a seductive trap. They might surround themselves with admirers who seem to know them very well. Careful, here, very careful. It is most likely these admirers don't even exist. It could even be something as wild as two individuals who are lovers but both are emotional vampires working the community.

How can you initially spot an emotional vampire? I don't think you can so quickly. They might befriend you, present themselves as, say, a sang/hybrid vampire while you are visiting the OVC (online vampire community) or visiting goth-type boards. They will start by agreeing with you or supportng you, maybe even offering assistance (watch out new vampire!). They use all the tricks of romantic seduction they can muster. They want you to "pant after them." I even read that in a livejournal. Once they have your admiration, they then employ techniques to gain your loyalty. The next thing you know, you start to feel a little drained, not sure if it's stress. Maybe I'm not sleeping enough? You begin worrying about this emotional vampire. He/she might have said he was feeling ill or depressed. Gradually, the drama builds up and you are there supporting him/her. Next thing you know, the drama is unbelievable to the point of maybe even physical violence. Every other week or so something is going on. It might be a vamp-out but he/she won't drink blood because he/she is just too weak. You wish there was something you could do. You love him or her as a friend, maybe even romantically.

Love. Admiration. Worship. The emotional vampire has a rock-star-need for love, worship, and admiration. He/she will do anything to get it. And worship is exactly what they want. They will twist your heart and soul to death, draining every bit of energy you have. When the drama is constant, you can bet they have engineered every bit of it, manipulating your emotions and feeding off of you. Once they have drained you, they will start to pull away so you may rebuild you strength a little, and perhaps pine at the distance. Then, they will come back and test to see how far they can push you, how much of your energy they can take. Or they may have built up such a large number of victims, it takes awhile to get around to you, to torture you and build more emotional distress. Still, they may be coming to you while you are totally unaware.

You might wonder how the emotional vampire actually feeds. Well, the emotional vampire is a sadist and glories in your pain, especially your pain over his pretended woes. He loves the control, revels in it. The other way he feeds is visiting you on the astral and taking from you. You will definitely be ready to give to him because he is hurting so, you know. You are breaking down on an emotional leave anyway, an easy mark....weak! The other way he will feed is to extend tentacles to you no matter where you are in the world.

If you are a bit psychic/have good instincts, you will know from the get-go that something is wrong. If you are like me, you will ignore your intuition and hope for the best. After all, people are people. I'm very forgiving. Besides, he decries emotional vampires and says he has high morals! You might find yourself defending him. That's what friends do.

Once you find out that he has lied to you about who he is, who he really is, what he is, it's very painful. It's also liberating. You knew you were right all along. You know that he never cared about you, that he is a true sociopath. You loved a lie. With that one realization, your energy will start flooding back to you...all of that energy he stole from you. Of course, you could go and visit him on the astral and take back every drop he took from you >:)

i know a girl named Brittany who is an emotional vampire and she crushed me completely we dated for 1yr 2months and she emotionally and verbally abused me but she tore my feelings and all to shred i swear shes evil

[gypsy mouse]

im still getting mixed messages on this "emotional" vampire thing.

[RKCoon]

I would say this - psi(onic) vampirism is the feeding of energy from outside sources, where the vamp does not physicly touch nor consume anything. that source can be anythig, from the life energy of a person, to the energy of nature, to the energy of music, to whatever. emotional vampires, on the other hand, specificly target (and usually exacerbate) the emotions of its donor (or usually more appropreately, Victim) and feed of the energy contained in and given off by the emotions felt or generated by someone.

For example, a number of emovamps i know of (i LOVE that term XDD) will do anything they can to cause drama, ham themselves up and appear as tho others are mortally wounding or offending them, when in reality, all that happened was someone gave them the firm brushoff or something similar. these people, the emovamps, will then go waaaaayyyy out of thier way to not only not let the issue die, but try to keep adding grease and gasoline to the fires -- all the while savoring the feeding they get from what boils down to as much ego gratification as it does energy feeding. in fact, in some cases, i would venture so far as to say that emovamps do it as much, if not more, for ego and thier self image as it is for straight up feeding.

Just my $2 on it ;)

[gypsy mouse]

ok...so what im getting is this....
an emovamp, feeds off human emotions either given off, or yet to appear in the person. they do this in much a similer way to a psi vamp "abosrbing" free flowing energys.
my point is this.....havent you ever gone to a club or show and imeditly upon entering you get a surge of something.....either you get "really" geekedand excited. or fucking pissed off, or start feeling silghtly drunk even though youve had nothing to drink yet. its all mattering what is in the "air" that night.....ever been around someone that is all coked up and all of a sudden you feel a little rushed your self.
or how bout when your friends had a bad day....ever notice that in them before they speak of it....ever feel those feelings for them....
all these things are rather common.....i know i like a good rush..i search out highly stimulating areas...even a quite bar for peace...i also know my heart breaks when i read or hear of fucked up shit going on in the world.....so i guess since im pulling the energy around me inward and it has such a effect on me i might be a prime canidite for "emovamp".
bullshit.....im human....im part of my surrondings...i can manipulate it to serve my purposes of emotion.....if im haveing a shitty day and feel run down..... usually a trip to the amusment park or going to see a show is a imedite fix. and yes if i pay too much attention to a certain person i can effect their emotions in a negitive or positive way......i belive nearly "all humans" are like this.
the name you broken hearts are looking for to give to this type of person who takes you for "all" you got and then leaves you swirling in a pit of dispair and confussion would be......"asshole!!"

[kyuuketsuki_kurai]

To me, a psychic vampire is a kind of general term and can be split into sub-categories of a sort. Some examples would be sexual/tantric vampire, elemental vampire (debatable whether it's a sub-category or it's own type), tactile vampire, or emotional vampire. It simply referred to what type of psychic energy was being fed off of.

It's also worth noting that "emotional vampire" is a term occasionally used in psychology (rarely professionally) that refers to a person that is co-dependent or otherwise emotionally draining. This is not a true vampire, though it can be difficult to differentiate between the 2 since they can feel very similarly draining.

[gypsy mouse]

ummm the sexual, the elemental, the tactile and emotional......
all things anyone can get a jolt out of.......i have allways had a tough time with psi vampires..mostly cuase i like my thoughts to be my own.....but i am well awre that there are pleanty of peeps who get their needs from sex (sex addicts), the elements (nature lovers), or vibes floating in the air (social butterflys).....as many may find themselves amoungest these types of people and pick up on their perticuler tendencies doesnt mean they are psi vampires....these are all human traits.....
"feed off of" implies some of its own things... it is nessacery for servival....it is taken inward and nurishes....i know a good fuck nurishes my soul....not to mentaion a good night at the club makes me feel revitalized....im also a druid, i am part of nature therefor it gives me a countinued drive to be amoungest it. i am not psi....but i do "feed off" many sources.
yeppers, still having a hard time with this thread.

[Vicereine]

I think perspective is the key word here (theres a suprise that word coming from me ;) ). Also I think experience dictates alot of our responses. Obviously, a large percentage of adult opinion on anything is based in experience and education (i dont mean purely academic).

Life is a continous journey, we dont reach a certain age and aquire enlightenment or certainty.

I am to this day 'weirded out' by other empaths or psi vampires but continuously lonely without them. I both love and hate having readings done per se (unless by friends) because I to like my thoughts to be my own. I like to think that my life is dictated by choices I make, and yet at the same time I am forced to see that circumstances sometimes are too convenient to be random.

From my perspective, if we were to translate every single perception we have, every thought process we utilise, every conclusion we make, if we were able to place any and all of these under a scientific term it would be labelled a condition or a mental illness or a deficiency/ delusion/ freudian remnant.......blah blah frickin blah.

Im not that much of a child of nature, generally, but just becuase something is given a latin name and has been dissected, does it make it any less beautiful intricate or amazing?

As a rule, I tend to err on advising people (when asked) to always disbelieve everything they have not experienced but not to discount it.

Personally I hope that no one else other than those who have already, experiences an emotional vampire this bent on harm.

I love the internet, but one of its major flaws is the inability to prove anything theoretical and psi/spiritual based.

Interesting debate though :)

[gypsy mouse]

if something is put on the net implying it as a truth then it must be questioned. if info is put on a board and is ment to be informitive wouldnt it be nice if the info givin to the young are truths.
remember what happens when kidz get a hold of rites they have no bussines preforming...or if things are miswriten and givin to them the trouble that can arise from it....
if info that is lacking in facts and backing is put on a information/support board, wouldnt you want the up and coming to have the proper support and information...
i think it is impairitive that things like this thread get put up on places like this board... i also think it is impairitive that everyone puts their thoughts into threads like these.. there are people who look to us for support and help.. they read these pages.. they talk to other people... they get info from all sorts of places... if we all put energy into what we know to be true in our own hearts then we can help them draw their own conclusions... and hopefully guide them in the proper direction...we are not here for just us. we are not here to boost about who we are, or what we think we know. but have gathered as a collective for the betterment of all.
im not trying to pick a fight... i swear im not....just bringing up questions and possibilitys to a subject that im sure many could easily be mislead by...
i like these kinda things....puts lotsa stuff out there for folks to take in...

So Kiss Me Im Kin!!

[Jevea]

So you have met my mother and my son? I am so drained from yesterday I am sick.

[gypsy mouse]

nope. but i got my own mom, two little cubs and a hubby.....plus a full time job. so i too get frickin "drained" daily.