A ‘friendly’ reminder.

[incubus]

While everyone will not always like each other, Nox is a safe haven for all!

Unless it happens on Nox or related to Nox we have always tried to keep it off the site.

Many here are people from other places originally, come here for help or a safe haven from the bs they had to deal with in another community.

Hell half of Nox came due to it. Many who are loved and respected on Nox came to Nox for a safe haven, how can we not grant this to others?

The past is the past, only here and now matter (and the future) dealing with the threats or insults to another member is nothing any of the staff like to deal with, nor is it tolerated at any level. ANY level.

So with the issue at hand, let this be a reminder to the community that this is a safe haven, and this is not such and such board and this is not 1 2 or even 5 years ago. This is Nox and this is now.

I am slightly aggravated this even had to be posted. But some times a reminder is in order.

[Amathiess]

Ok Rob, seems I'm a little lost and a lot out of the loop here. May I ask what sparked your post so that I might be able to catch up on things?

[incubus]

Just to remind all that every one here who is accepted into Nox come in clean slate, past means nothing?

[RKCoon]

Was it you that said, "What goes on at nox, stays at nox -- what goes on OFF of nox, stays off"? someone did, i cant remember who now.

[incubus]

Yes, but when involves 2 members of Nox it makes it Nox related. Hence admins have to act on it. And deal with it clean it up and all that messy jazz.

[Lauren]

they probably feel that threatening to blackmail a Nox member to leave Nox, is part of Nox business. They probably think, Posting about Nox business on one's xanga/myspace, or such is Nox business too.

[incubus]

Depends on the space, blog an so forth. Staff has been asked to step down to to insulting Nox in their blog before (odd wanting to be staff and to insult but *shrugs)

Blackmail is a big no no, I mean we just want everyone to get along... if people do not like each other there is an ignore option even (not that I think it is ever used lol)

[Malcaius]

oh its been used before, trust me. but yes keep the shit to a minimum

[Alyushia]

I think blackmail is a bit beyond dislike.

[darklin]

Personal issues/disputes should be kept personal and dealt with in an adult manner and not put up for public opinion because that is how the BS and Drama starts.
All issues can be dealt with here by contacting a member of staff and discussing it with them to help find a resolve. Not wanting to sound like I’m repeating words but Nox is renowned for its drama free boards and family orientated community so lets keep it that way.
I’m not saying that things should be swept under the rug but I’m saying that if there are any issues they should be dealt with rationally, maturely and with respect for all other members here.

[Camazotz]

Just to add.. if there are issues which you feel can't be ignored or resolved amongst yourselves, then there is the option to ask a member of high staff to mediate a discussion between the parties to try to find a solution.

Cama

[Vicereine]

I'd like to add my 2 cents worth here. Nox is a haven. (again repeating everyone else I know).

We all come from different places with different experiences, and we place alot of trust in people we cant see usually.

Its important that issues that are felt to be a real issue to the community and its individual members are dealt with in an adult way, off the board.

Everyone has been hurt by someone in their lives at somepoint, how we deal with that situation is a huge reflection on who we are.

This is a huge time of upheaval for Nox right now, and im sure some of the members who are quieter and less noticed (although not less important ;) ) are feeling worried and stressed at the possibilities.

In my opinion the board is a focus for the positive reasons we are together in this family, all families have inner fueds etc, but are dealt with behind closed doors.

Perhaps we could all remember that.

Again, just my opinion.

[RKCoon]

they probably feel that threatening to blackmail a Nox member to leave Nox, is part of Nox business. They probably think, Posting about Nox business on one's xanga/myspace, or such is Nox business too.

I would differ on that - we are not government or any such thing, what we say elsewhere has no bearing on what we do here. to say otherwise would be to really overstep the bounds of the board, i should think. The idea that "we represent the board elsewhere" hasnt seemed to be that popular as of late anyway -- seems to me tis preferable to simply keep out of such things.

[RevDevon]

Well to begin with ...Ya'll have made me have to do way to much reading today ..lmao..!!

BUt yes we have been and wish to remain basically a drama free board .. And no matter what NO member should have to leave Nox because of another... and as Cama stated should you need a high staff member mediate feel free to contact us and we shall be happy to do so ..it will not be the first time this service has been needed ....

Simply stated if any member has a conflict with another all that needs to be done is to avoid that said member ... and unless you have a valid point to add to any thread just don't respond ...at no time should any post include any kind of flame towards another ...as the old addage said " if ya don't have anything nice to say ...dont say anything at all''...

[Eclecta]

I would differ on that - we are not government or any such thing, what we say elsewhere has no bearing on what we do here. to say otherwise would be to really overstep the bounds of the board, i should think. The idea that "we represent the board elsewhere" hasnt seemed to be that popular as of late anyway -- seems to me tis preferable to simply keep out of such things.

Rob is right. If this concerns two members of this forum, who are having issues with each other, I'd say it's a Nox issue. Especially when it is spilling over here. If you go to your profile page, there is a button that says "add ...... to use ignore list" and I think it might need to be made use of.

[dreamguardian1]

I like how i was accepted into Nox even though i identified right off the bat as Transgender M to F and a Psy vamp. The help that came into me was overwhelming. I did have one big blow up on a game i was playing where my postings from here got google searched and came up and my whole life flew before about 50,000 people, but i no longer play that online game anymore so could care less what they think about me and my life. The admins here and the people have been very supportive and this has always been a safe haven for me and I hope it is for everyone else to. Im actually saddened that what was said above even happened.

[incubus]

Things always happen, usually here they are VERY few and far between and try to resolve in the most fair and unbiased way possible.

Very very few have every had to be banned from Nox, one of said banned was a friend of mine. someone I liked (lost track with since) but Nox has always tryed to do what is 'fair' and to keep a safe haven for all.

[RKCoon]

DreamGuardian - nox does have a wonderful open policy -- doesnt matter who or what you are, your welcome here. from what iveseen , the board staff only gets concerned with something that directly efects the board. tho this may run into grey areas at times, what youve listed and said is of no worries here at all. Ive freinds in exactly the same boat as you, so im quite familiar with the battles your enduring. As far as recent issues go, they do not involve nox, at least, the best efforts of mice and men have tried to avoid involving this board, and will continue to keep this board as drama free as possible, but hey -- no one is god, so cant garantee anything eh?

[ChadSang]

I agree...no need to repeat what others have already said. Let's all work to keep this site drama-free and friendly and helpful to others...help somebody if you can!

[Alyushia]

I agree...that is one of the things that I have enjoyed so about this board.

[Valentina]

Blackmail is over the top and unfortunate.

[Camazotz]

You know... it's lovely to hear people with such positive comments..

I do think we could do without some of the more 'pointed' remarks though

Cama

[Eclecta]

I'm in agreement with Cama.

[Vicereine]

loaded comments, in my experience, have a tendancy to weigh heavy on the shoulders of the commentator. Veiled reference to something that bares no purpose to this board hides behind a thin veneer.

Drama free people. Drama free.

:)

[Valentina]

I don't enjoying addressing issues ad nauseum, but wait a minute.

Are we really talking about blackmail? Blackmail is not merely drama. Come on, folks. Blackmail is a serious issue. Did someone here really attempt to blackmail another member or is that a lie and an exaggeration? If someone actually threatened a member they should be banned permanently.

Respectfully, I ask you, what is the truth? I want to know before I go further at this board.

Thank you for your time.

[Valentina]

I have read the update. I understand now. Thank you.