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Preist
11-24-2005, 08:13 PM
Self-doubt In What You Are!

Ok self doubt in who you are… Its a common thing that I come across in the vampire community and its one thing that we all near enough go through at different times.

It can be a lot to take in at first. Think about it- there’re some weird feelings around you, you’ve been ostracised for as long as you can remember and/or there’s the feeing of never fitting in. Upon your research you find that you’re a vampire or you’re told that all the things you’ve been going through are caused by you being a vampire. Then you wonder, “hey why not doubt it” because all of your life you have watched horror movies and the media has portrayed the vampire as a living-dead entity that can live forever if they don’t met certain criteria i.e. a stake through the heart?

Through our research we all find out that that’s not the case and indeed that vlad the impalor might not have actually been the big vampire honcho that he’s been portrayed to be, so hey no problem there.

So where does that leave you? It leaves you in a world of loneliness initially, even when you find others there’s always that feeling of “should I be here? Am I really what I think I am or what others say I am?”
Well those are questions to be considered because, at the end of the day, no-one can really answer those questions but yourself. It has to be through what you know and what you find in your life and, if you’re lucky enough, to find others that are helpful and that can point you in a good direction with truth… not with the concepts of role-playing and dead end’s of information.

When you started reading this article if you thought for one moment it was an answer then I am genuinely apologetic as I cant tell anyone for certain what life path to follow. I may be able to help you on a path in life, but I can’t determine what or who you are. That is something that’s best left to yourself and your own research.

Ok, so you know what you are, but time and time again the self-doubt creeps… in whispering in your ear that you’re not what you are. Well again it happens to us all, there will always be low points with the high ones.

The best advice I can ever give here is to strive higher. Don’t listen to others or your inner voice of doubt, allow this to spur you on to find the real self within you, the parts of you that make you tick, the points of you that make you unique, or again what makes you vampire. I know myself what I am and what I do and also what I am capable of. When I get self-doubt I take a look back and I think of all the ones I have helped awaken, all the ones I noticed going through the same problems I did. Then I make a note to self considering that, if I am a lie, then all their lives and all the things and greatness they have achieved after that have been a lie, all in the name of something that can’t be diagnosed by medical communities.
That’s what spurs me on and takes away my self-doubt!

Vampirism can take many forms in itself. Not many of us show all the same traits, some of us don’t show any traits and again many of us despise the term vampire in it’s own light.

What I will say here is, again, its up to what you want to find, what you want to research and how deep you want to go down the proverbial rabbit hole of the vampire. It takes a strong person to look at their own life in a true light. Many look at their own lives and treat any small coincidence as a major thing in what they portray themselves to be. In some cases though, the smaller things are bigger, but its looking at it in a true light without relating it solely to being a vampire that reveals truth. If the feeling, thought or event is so strong in your thoughts relating to what you are, then place that as being so, but it has to be in a true light - there’s nothing worse than lying to yourself, it gets you nowhere fast.


Ok… so you have figured out who you are and you know for definite who you are. FANTASTIC! Keep a hold of what you know and give yourself a reminder for those low points of “This is who I am and this is why I know I am”. Don’t ever allow anyone to take that away from you, it is yours and only you can change that – only you!

For myself… well, for me, I came to terms with who I was years ago- not that I was a vampire, no not that, I came to terms with feeding. That has always been my crux. I have always known I was different, all the way through my life, and yes, I don’t often use the term vampire relating to myself. In my own research I found other words and other things that related more to myself.

But the one thing that even with self-doubt that always made me come back up again, no matter how much I tried to stay away from it, was feeding - the very thing that gave me the most self-doubt.

I have gone for months without feeding, gotten to my lowest point and then entered a room (such as a busy night club) and taken in all the energy I could. This was generally done subconsciously by my own body, later consciously by myself and then I found myself buzzing for days, because my soul (so to speak) found what it needed to bring me back again to my so-called normality. This is one self-doubt that actually made me believe in what I was. I know myself that my hunger grows each and every time, so for me it gets rid of the self-doubt.

One other thing I did was to get all the things I knew truthfully within myself about what I was and then (I don’t recommend this for everyone), once I got all these things together, I took a step forward -I got a tattoo of a vampire on my chest. I knew from that point I was who I was and nothing could change that. Its a constant reminder to me, when I look down I see my vampire self and it reminds me of all the things I am and all the things that add up to what I am.

You might see things differently, well most defiantly you might find this, but I can’t say it enough- it takes time and it takes your own judgment! Its nothing to do with your peers, its nothing to do with your environment, it may even have nothing to do with your parents either, but its all up to you to find out and do your homework on learning what and who you are.

Once you find out as I have said then find a grounding point, a time, place or something that you can look at to tell you (even remind you) of who you are. Then don’t allow anyone to take that away from you, even if it means you having to walk away. Remember, outside the community not many people will find truth in your words of who you are. They will have their doubts, no matter how well read and how much research you have done they may tell you that you are wrong, placing the self-doubt bug in you. This is why I say walk away and stay true to yourself.

Preist

darklin
11-25-2005, 06:44 AM
I have found myself doubting myself over and over again in the past few months to a point where i get so confused i feel blank if u know what i mean.Over the past few months i have been to hell and back and ive wanted so much to be able to deny who and what iam but in my own mind its not been possible to do it.I cant deny my true nature,the things that makes me tick has caused me so much pain yet i still want it and i cant ignore it.Going through what i just have has made me even more determend to accept myself for who iam without question.
This is a great post hun beacuse sometime when ur in the pit of darkness u feel so alone when infact theres so many other thinking just the same as u and are going through similar things.Its always good to klnow ur not alone and that there are others out there willing to give u surport and advice but as u said no one can tell u what u are u have to find that out for urself.Others adivce can can only help u find ur own path in life it cant find it for u.Ive done so much soul searching over the past few months and im happy to say that i have come out of it so much stronger than i was and so much more aware of what is going on around me.As i always say "Everything happens for a reason"and i still beleave that even though what has happened caused me alot of pain i have learnt from it all and have come out a better person with more understanding of things that i took for granted b4 hand.
*hugs*
darklin

Preist
11-25-2005, 10:37 AM
Well hun i am glad that you dont doubt your self on it even after all that went on for one i will say this to you,

I have met you and i know i have had the privilage of knowing the vampire in you and to have seen it and you are one of the ones mentioned in the article its you guys who i trained and have been around and helped out that give me reasurance of what i am as i said if i doubted that i would have been living a lie

talk soon hun

love Preist

DesirDoux
11-25-2005, 11:03 AM
Thank you Preist for putting this article up :)

I have also the odd spell of not truely believing who I am. It can be quite soul destroying this doubt and has left me confused many a time.

I begin to think I am being silly and living in a dream world, and a female of my age shouldnt believe such stuff. This upsets me, and then that same old feeling of knowing who I am will make itself known :)

~Desir Doux~

darklin
11-25-2005, 06:35 PM
It always does hunnie and oh what a good feeling it is*hugs*

And preist u absoulute darlin u it was i who was privalidge to have met u guys and to be my true self for the few days we were all together it was bliss and being with my own kind for the first time was amazing.I have never felt like that in anyones company before in my life.I was treated like a princess and welcomed in with open arms.I have nothing but love for u for u both for the help u have given me and the surport u have shown me and for the first time in my life i feel looked after if u know what i mean,i feel i belong and that means so much to me.You showed me what it was like to feel totaly at peace and safe and i cant wait for the day i run at ya off the plane again!:p
Love and so much respect
Darklin
xxxx

Preist
11-25-2005, 07:27 PM
hey guys tis all good its my job i didnt awaken either of you but both of you had an impact on my life and its family that matters and you both know anything i can do to help i will.

Preist

Craze
11-26-2005, 02:35 PM
When I first awakened it was like a sledgehammer hitting me over the head. I was 12. I went to my mother and she thought I was nuts (Of COURSE I went to my mother, I was only 12). There is an open history (As in we all talk about it) on my fathers side of the family, but my mom thinks they're all crazy. She's a therian, but she doen't acknowledge it at all.

Anyway, I went ot my mom, and ya now what happened? She locked me up In Bridgewater State Mental Facility for three years. This place was less than third rate. I was abused by rderlies, and given shock therapy. Needless to say, after it got shut down and I was (eventually) released, I surpressed it as much as I could,until about four years ago, when I found the vampiric communities online and allowed myself to re-explore what I was. Now I'm completly confortable with myself and everything I am, but I still don't advertize it to my family.

Not everyone has a smooth awakening. Depending on when you awaken it can be a frightening experience. It can isolate you,make you think you're losing your mind, and depending on events that may or may not occur, you just might.

Awaakening vamps, and vamps and kin that have been awakened for a while, are lucky indeed when they meet people they can relate to.

Tobias69
11-26-2005, 07:06 PM
*huggles Craze* Me is sorry for what happened to you. Me hate it when stuff like that happens to someone good.

TheSlyder
12-21-2005, 08:06 AM
I think my first actually acceptance, of who I was and what I was, became as a matter of understanding my relative position every vamp or sang's relative position that the truth of what we are or who we are can only be defined by us, only you will no what truth lies within you, and the journey of self discover, is in a big part the journey of every vampire.

Good Post, well done Priest.

Preist
12-28-2005, 07:16 PM
thanks slyder

every thing comes from our selves and to get rid of the self doubt i thikn its a good part of our travels in life to find out our own reasoning and find our own way through it all

Preist

Pastor Dirk
12-29-2005, 12:26 AM
very well done.......as y'all could imagine it was a very hard thing for me to deal with while I was active in the pulpit, I actually denied myself the ability to feed in anyway for I could not justify who or what I was....it was only after I left the pulpit did I start to feed again and with a lot of heavyness on my heart ever time. I used to feel so wrong for doing it. But after meeting another friend who is just like me (vamp, ex-preacher and beleive it or not a swinger) she taught me that it was ok who I was and taght me how to help and mentor the young kids who fight the same feelings....its very lonesome in this community as a christian. You are out number'd by so many differ religions that its hard to be yourself, but with age comes wisdom (i Think) and I have learned to accept who I am and come to peace with it.

Vicereine
01-16-2008, 04:06 AM
I still have self doubt on a regular basis. I start to think maybe im delusional or mentally ill. Perhaps just perverse.... i have the scratching scratching in side my mind that Im merely hiding inside a fantasy etc etc etc......

Then something happens I cant explain. Kin pulls closer, Im sent energy without asking, its just known I need it. And im loved for who AND what I am.

Selfdoubt plagues all humanity in one way or another. Sadly its a stereotypical reaction to pick apart someone elses difference so the attention is off your own. At least while they are picking me apart they are leaving some other poor git alone .

darklin
01-16-2008, 07:28 AM
Oh I had long forgotten this thread…..Was good to read back though and see how things have changed for me and how far I have come in respect to my previous posts here.

Self doubt will always be apart of us I think, I don’t know anyone who has confidence in everything they are or do. I’m very much like you Vicereine when it comes to doubting my capabilities and what is real and what is not. Then iam swiftly reminded by someone pulling close just at the right time ;)

And Preist my darlin Preist……..What a journey its been *Smiles* maybe I would have found my feet without your guidance and support but I wouldn’t be anywhere near the woman iam today without you by my side.. Its been an awesome ride through the laughter, the tears and the random growls ;)

Darklin...

gypsy mouse
01-16-2008, 09:27 AM
i bare no regrets.........but need to go on a diet.
i know what i am......who i am....... i still have yet to figure out what i will become, i find a strange peace in that.

Vicereine
01-16-2008, 05:34 PM
*joins gypsy in the need to diet front* mehhhhh exercise baddd